Partner blog: Aborcja farmakologiczna- list od jednej z “naszych” kobiet

Partner blog: Aborcja farmakologiczna- list od jednej z “naszych” kobiet

Opowieść kobiety, które właśnie miała aborcję.


W 20 dniu cyku zorientowałam się, że pomyliłam sie z wyliczeniami dni płodnych. Przekonana, że to dni niepłodne nie zabezpieczyłam się z mężem. Ponad tydzień drżałam z niepewności, za późno było na „tabletkę po”. Ile ja sobie wyrzucałam, że to moja wina, jak mogłam sie tak pomylić! Na pewno będe w ciaży. Z drugiej strony, może sie uda, może miałam pustą owulację i nic nie będzie.

W dniu planowanej miesiączki nie wytrzymałam, zrobiłam test i co, i dupa!!! lekko różowa krecha jest i to po minucie!

i co teraz? co teraz? co teraz? co ja mam zrobić? powiedzieć komuś? nie powiedzieć? załatwić to sama?

na bank nie urodze, nie ma mowy, to nie ten czas, nie ten moment… chcę jeszcze wolności

Powiedziałam mężowi, serio bałam się że on będzie chciał utrzymać ciążę, że zakocha się w myśli o dziecku. Wywaliłam jednym tchem, że nie chcę teraz być w ciąży, jeszcze chcę byśmy byli tylko razem, pojeździli, pobawili się we dwoje, zanim spadną na nas ograniczenia. Nie jestem gotowa do bycia matką. Płakałam wywalając z siebie całą złość na to co się stało. I jakież było moje zdziwienie, słyszac.. „OK kochanie, jak zdecydujesz tak zrobisz. Jesteś dla mnie najwazniejsza”.  Jak nie kochać takiego człowieka!

Usiedlismy oboje do komuptera szukać pomocy. Trafiliśmy na infolinię, gdzie bardzo miła osoba wyjaśniła nam do kogo możemy się zwrócić o pomoc. Dziewczyny odwalacie dobrą robotę, bardzo wam dziękujemy.

Zamówiliśmy leki, reszta była już jak z górki… 2 tygodnie czekania, tabletki do domu dotarły, wykonaliśmy całą procedurę. Dziś mija 2 miesiące od tego momentu i jestem najszczęśliwsza osobą pod słońcem.

To była dobra decyzja. Nie załuję… jak będe gotowa będe matką, ale nie w tym momencie.




Partner Post – Best and Worst of 2014

Hello! It’s that time of the year again (and how quickly they seem to fly!)

We all start taking stock of the year that has been and start looking forward to the year that will be. Of course, the dates and calendars are just an artificial devise to make sense of our time and lives and give us a sense of purpose ………and look forward to weekends J

But it is also good to look back and see what went well and feel a sense of hope for the coming months.

We found that in 2014 we had more things to be grateful for with safe abortion issues than to despair about.

That is not to say that there isn’t a large body of anti- choice persons , growing every day, fuelled by religious dogma, private and Church funding, working on its anti –women agenda all the time………but there are also people like us !

Holding the line, hoping to push our agenda forward, spreading the word that safe abortion is a human right and reminding ourselves that we need the stamina and strength to keep going for another year.

So, as we prepare to welcome 2015, here is the best and worst of 2014

Best of 2014:

A feisty pregnant woman walking past anti-choice protestors gives them an earful J

The global trend of countries amending laws to expand access to safe abortion continues!

France will now fully reimburse all 1st trimester abortions. Amazing!

Finally, a mainstream Hollywood film that includes an abortion in its storyline…….and life can go on

Feminist writer Katha Pollitt says in her new book “Pro: Reclaiming Abortion Rights,” that abortion is a “moral right” and a “social good,” and it should be seen as a normal part of a woman’s reproductive life.

Worst of 2014

A Nepali migrant worker has become the first woman in Malaysia to face imprisonment for undergoing an abortion. The law in both Nepal and Malaysia allow abortions! Activist’s in both countries are challenging this arrest and working for Nirmala Thapa’s release.

We will now take a break for the end of the year and we will be back on 1st January 2015 with a series of wonderful blogposts written by our new Youth Champions. So watch out for it and talk to you soon!

Original source: Brave NEW Pro Choice World – Coming Soon

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An important day just went by, marked by hundreds of events and campaigns and lots of noise around the world. Some of you may have never heard of it before, but to an abortion rights activist like me, it’s practically a statutory holiday.

September 28 is the Global Day of Action for Access to Safe and Legal Abortion. The day originated two decades ago in Latin America and the Caribbean where women’s groups have been pushing governments to decriminalize abortion and provide safe and affordable access. The date itself commemorates the abolition of slavery in Brazil in 1871, and came to be adopted by Brazilian women as the day of the “free womb.”

In 2011, the day went viral and global, thanks to the Women’s Global Network for Reproductive Rights, and later the International Campaign for Women’s Right to Safe Abortion. Thousands of groups and partners around the world support and promote the day, with a wide range of activities happening in over 50 countries each year. The 2014 focus was on addressing abortion stigma as one of the main obstacles to improved access.

This year, a new international foundation called Women Help Women launched itself on September 28 in honour of the day. (Full disclosure: I’m proud to be part of this new feminist organization.) The group is a global forum to advocate for access to improved reproductive health services, while providing those services at the same time. Women can order contraception and medical abortion pills directly from the WHW website, while receiving expert counselling and information in multiple languages. WHW invites all pro-choice, feminist and human rights organizations to endorse the initiative, and to partner with us.

Although abortion is still illegal in many countries around the world, “do-it-yourself” (DIY) medical abortion means that it has become much safer compared to traditional methods such as inserting foreign objects in the uterus or ingesting poisons. However, there are still dangers when women buy dubious medication on the black market and take it without any instructions or medical supervision — hence, the urgent need for groups like WHW, as well as Women on Web. The latter group courageously piloted the online provision of medical abortion in 2006, proving the viability and safety of this model.

The number of illegal and mostly unsafe abortions in the world has not declinedsince 2003, but the World Health Organization has documented a substantial 48 per cent decrease in the number of preventable maternal deaths from unsafe abortion — most likely due to DIY medical abortion. In 2008, 47,000 women a year died unnecessarily compared to about 70,000 in 2003.

Reproductive rights as human rights

As the global community continues to adopt a rights-based framework that recognizes women’s rights as human rights, it’s becoming more difficult for anti-choice groups to prevail. This is especially the case in regions with high death and complication rates from unsafe, illegal abortion — particularly Africa.

I track abortion news around the world, and just five years ago, the typical story out of Africa favoured anti-choice views and the criminalization of abortion. A sea change has been occurring, because a more typical story today is about a health professional in Uganda advocating legalization to stop the carnage of unsafe abortion, or this one about the Ghanian government implementing a safe abortion provision program.

That’s not too say there aren’t many horrendous laws and injustices still happening in Africa — like this nurse who was recently sentenced to death for helping a woman get an abortion in Kenya. But overall, things are slowly improving.

In July, the African country of Mozambique passed a ground-breaking law that legalizes abortion under a range of circumstances, including to protect the woman’s physical or mental health. Since 1994, at least 14 African countries have liberalized their laws to allow one or more exceptions, with several countries passing quite liberal laws, including South Africa, Tunisia and Ethiopia.

That reflects the steady progress since the adoption of the Programme of Actionat the 1994 International Conference on Population and Development in Cairo, which recognized reproductive rights as human rights. In part because of the commitments that nations gave at that conference, a total of 30 countries have liberalized their abortion laws since 1994.

Restricting abortion access

Still, progress is slow. In the past 20 years, more than one million women have died and over 100 million have suffered injuries due to complications of unsafe abortion. A handful of countries have passed even stricter laws since 1994, including the United States, Russia, Poland and Hungary. Sixty-six countries still prohibit abortion entirely or permit it only to save a woman’s life.

Five countries in the world explicitly ban abortion for any reason whatsoever: Nicaragua, El Salvador, Chile, Dominican Republic, and Malta (in southern Europe). The four Latin American countries have all become quite infamous for either imprisoning women for having abortions or miscarriages (Mexico does this too), or just letting pregnant women die when they have obstetric complications or require a life-saving abortion. However, Chile is planning to liberalize their law soon as a result of international pressure. Other Latin American countries maintain restrictive laws except for Uruguay, which legalized abortion in 2012.

Turning to Europe, Ireland pretends to be “pro-life” with its 1983 constitutional amendment that subordinates women to fetuses, but the government and “pro-lifers” look the other way while thousands of Irish women travel to other countries every year to have abortions. Similar “abortion tourism” takes place out of other European countries with restrictive laws, including Poland, Hungary, Malta and Monaco.

The latest Irish barbarism (after the horrible death of Savita Halappanavar in 2012 because she was denied an abortion) is the case of Ms. Y, a refugee who was raped in her home country before discovering she was pregnant after moving to Ireland. She felt suicidal but was denied an abortion at 8 weeks, even though Ireland had just passed a new abortion law specifically to allow abortion in cases of suicide risk. Lacking papers, the woman was unable to travel outside Ireland for an abortion. She attempted suicide at 16 weeks. After repeated requests for an abortion, she finally went on a hunger strike in hospital, where she was still suicidal and six months pregnant. The hospital’s response was to forcibly hydrate her until they decided to perform an emergency Caesarian section to save the baby. In other words, the young woman was treated as an incubator with no rights or dignity of her own.

These horror stories out of Ireland, Latin America and Africa make for scandalous headlines that do no favours to the guilty country’s reputation. It also results in increased pressure on those countries to live up to their human rights obligations. That pressure doesn’t just come from the many strong reproductive rights groups operating internationally. Some new “heavy hitters” have begun advocating for the decriminalization of abortion in recent years, including the United Nations, World Health Organization, Amnesty International, and Human Rights Watch.

Raising the political stakes

Further, anti-choice governments at least in western countries are beginning to discover they are in danger of losing elections if they try to restrict abortion or reduce access.

Activists across Spain celebrated a major victory — on September 28, ironically — after the Spanish right-wing government was forced to shelve their proposed anti-abortion legislation due to widespread opposition from both within and outside Spain. Women carried out wonderfully creative campaigns and rallies across Spain and Europe. The proposed bill even divided the government itself, ending with the prime minister backing away from the bill due to election loss fears. The justice minister was forced to resign.

Here at home, the reigning Conservatives in New Brunswick were ousted in the provincial election on Sept. 22, after the abortion issue played a key role in the campaign (right up there with shale gas and forestry). The Conservatives tried to coast through on a “do nothing” promise, even though abortion access had been dangerously limited after the July closure of the Fredericton Morgentaler Clinic. The Liberals swept to power with a promise to eliminate barriers to access.

Access to safe and legal abortion is increasingly seen as a human right. Global progress towards that goal continues unrelentingly, despite setbacks, anti-choice opposition, and the United States. Fewer women are dying because they are taking pro-active control of their own lives by obtaining safer abortion pills. The harms of criminal laws are being recognized more and more, especially in Africa and Latin America. Ireland is embarrassing itself on the world stage. The United Nations has been calling other restrictive countries to account for their violations of women’s rights. Human rights campaigners are getting stronger and more numerous and more optimistic about the future. The tide is inexorably turning in their favour — and in women’s favour. The clock will not be turned back. Welcome to our brave new pro-choice world.

Joyce Arthur is the founder and Executive Director of Canada’s national pro-choice group, the Abortion Rights Coalition of Canada (ARCC), which protects the legal right to abortion on request and works to improve access to quality abortion services.

Partner post: Youth Advocacy Institute of Asia Safe Abortion Partnership (ASAP)

In December 2014 Youth Advocacy Institute of ASAP is coming back to town! ASAP is one of the most vocal advocates in Asia and Pacific very dedicated to mobilising young people. Women Help Women is proud to partner with ASAP. Our staff, as well as many partners, have had the honour to participate in the previous editions of the Institute. Trust us – it was awesome. The approach is unique and sessions varied from deconstructing patriarchy and social images around women and reproductive health, through participatory workshops and hands on social media training. If you are a young, passionate person living in Asia that would like to get trained and involved, contact ASAP. Below read the recap from the Institute in 2012.

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Youth Advocacy Institute Day 1: Deconstructing Patriarchy

Why is it easier for women to wear a pair of trousers than it is for men to don a dress?  What toys should we buy our children? How has capitalism molded gender constructs? Can a woman marry and refuse to have children? Can she refuse sex in a marriage? If patriarchy does not work, should we campaign for matriarchy instead?

These are some questions that our Youth Champions discussed on the first day of ASAP’s Youth Advocacy Institute. The first session, on gender and sexuality, began a little after half-past nine, and was chaired by Dr. Manisha Gupte, the founder of MASUM. Soon after ASAP’s Coordinator Dr. Suchitra Dalvie joined in with questions that sparked insightful conversations, and challenged the participants to think outside of their comfort zones.

Participants at ASAP’s Youth Advocacy Institute pose with Dr. Manisha Gupte, and the staff of ASAP

Dr. Gupte’s sessions were rife with case studies, and stories from ancient, medieval, colonial and modern history. Out of the many stories she told, one stood out. A female Spanish Olympian was asked to undergo medical examination before she participated in the contests. Tests showed that she carried  a Y chromosome, in addition to two X chromosomes. She was immediately told she could not compete as a woman. She was sent home stripped all at once of her gender identity, and her opportunity to further her career.

Dr. Dalvie’s session came next, and challenged the students to wonder how pro-choice they were. Most of them agreed that abortion should be a woman’s right, but there was a strong debate about a husband’s right to divorce a woman for having an abortion. Dr. Manisha weighed in, “If she felt the need to be discreet about her abortion, then their marriage already has a crack. The crack was not created by abortion, only widened by it. So a man can leave her if that is not what he wants, but he cannot blame it on the abortion. It is the relationship that had problems.”

Participants debate values that restrict women and men within the patriarchal framework

There were other debates on the institution of marriage. Why do people marry – to have children who can then go on to inherit their property, or to be in a long relationship? Why are there rules about who one can marry or have sex with? Can a woman be in a marriage and not want to be a mother?

Dr. Dalvie and Dr. Gupte also urged the students to deconstruct patriarchal rules that controlled women’s fertility, and to recognize its ties to the capitalistic idea of inheritance   They also spoke about gatekeepers. If in olden days, priests were allowed to use religion as their means of exercising such control, today lawyers, doctors and geneticists do the same using law, biology and genetics as their cover.

Dr. Gupte also asked the students to wonder how often the law is old patriarchal rules in a new sophisticated avatar. A good law would protect its vulnerable citizens, but instead most laws, make it easy for men to inherit property, condemn women to a life of dependency, forge rules that enable families to control a woman’s fertility, and makes it difficult to live outside a normative marriage.

The heavy discussions were intertwined with lighthearted games that gave the students a chance to get to know each other, and for the ASAP Staff to understand their expectations and aspirations.

We wound up around 6 p.m., after watching Bol, a Pakistani movie where a stereotypical patriarch controls the lives of his children and wife. We look forward to discussing this with the participants today!

You can take part in the discussions and write to us anytime. We are planning to tweet updates from the YAI using the hashtag #ASAPYAI. We are also posting photos to Facebook, and report to our blog!

Do read for more information. For regular updates from ASAP please subscribe to our blog.

Partner blog: Aborcyjna Doula

Jesteśmy aborcyjnymi doulami. Słuchamy kobiet. Tekst opublikowany prez Kobiety w Sieci, organizację partnerską Women Help Women.

Jesteśmy aborcyjne Doule, kobiety które są z innymi kobietami i pomagają mi przejśc ciężki czas jakim jest własna aborcja. Doula, daje nie tylko informacje, daje pomoc psychologiczną,  współczucie i dobre słowo. To soba, która z racji znajomości tematu może uspokoic kobietę w trakcie tego nerwowego czasu.

Doula, to przyjaciółka. Chce nią być dla innych kobiet. Dzielenie tak intymnego doświadczenia jakim jest aborcja zbliża kobiety. Często z tego powstają przyjaźnie na długie lata.  Nikt nie zrozumie nas lepiej (oprócz nas samych) jak ta co przeszła już tą drogę.

Zaufajcie Doulom, zaufajcie nam przyjaciółkom od aborcji. Nie tylko powiemy Wam jak ją wykonać środkami dostępnymi w Polsce. Wirtualnie będziemy Wam towarzyszyć, podpowiadać co trzeba zrobić, jak sie zachować by nie zrobić sobie krzywdy.

Telefony do nas funkcjonują od poniedziałku do piątku.

oto one:

725 892 134 (Plus) od poniedziałku do piątku do godziny 22.

503 937 745 (Orange) od poniedziałku do piątku w godzinach 8:00-9:00, 16:00-22:00, 9:00-16:00 tylko sms.

730 861 724 (Play) od poniedziałku do piątku do godziny 22.

Nasze telefony są  uruchomione za własne pieniądze, jeśli czujesz, ze ci pomogłyśmy i chcesz nas wspomóc to miło nam będzie jeśli w doładujesz nam konto telefoniczne symboliczną kwotą 5,00 zł.

Z góry bardzo dziękujemy.

Zachęcamy również do „polubienia” fb’owego potralu Kobiet w Sieci, na którym będą pojawiały się aktualne informacje dotycznące działalności Grupy.!/pag…40?fref=ts